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To Have + To Help exists because a lifetime of events showed that the logistics are never the hard part. It's what happens in people's bodies when the pressure builds, expectations collide, and nobody's addressing the complexity underneath the beautiful production.
A note from Lucie, creator of To Have + To Help…
I've watched hundreds of events from the inside. Noticed that capable people don't break under logistics, they break under the weight of everyone's expectations colliding at once. That the invitation debate is really about power. That money reveals what couples haven't said to each other yet. That your body registers the complexity before your mind catches up.
I've watched hundreds of events from the inside. Noticed that capable people don't break under logistics, they break under the weight of everyone's expectations colliding at once. That the invitation debate is really about power. That money reveals what couples haven't said to each other yet. That your body registers the complexity before your mind catches up.
I've watched hundreds of events from the inside. Noticed that capable people don't break under logistics, they break under the weight of everyone's expectations colliding at once. That the invitation debate is really about power. That money reveals what couples haven't said to each other yet. That your body registers the complexity before your mind catches up.
My own grief taught me what the brides already knew: you can't think your way through intensity. You need practices that meet you in your body. Tools that work when politeness stops working.
My own grief taught me what the brides already knew: you can't think your way through intensity. You need practices that meet you in your body. Tools that work when politeness stops working.
My own grief taught me what the brides already knew: you can't think your way through intensity. You need practices that meet you in your body. Tools that work when politeness stops working.
To Have + To Help is fifteen years of pattern recognition meeting somatic training. Strategic support for the decisions, embodiment practices for everything underneath.
To Have + To Help is fifteen years of pattern recognition meeting somatic training. Strategic support for the decisions, embodiment practices for everything underneath.
To Have + To Help is fifteen years of pattern recognition meeting somatic training. Strategic support for the decisions, embodiment practices for everything underneath.
Read More about Lucie's Story
I started as a confused, stressed-out intern running around luxury events trying to figure out why anyone would willingly choose this chaos. Worked my way up to producing weddings and events across Europe, the kind where every detail matters and the stakes feel impossibly high. And somewhere along the way, I got slightly addicted to the intensity of it all. There's something genuinely intoxicating about event production. The precision. The controlled chaos. Watching disparate elements come together into something beautiful. But I also kept noticing patterns. Some people moved through it with relative ease, they just needed strategic guidance at decision points, someone to sanity-check their choices, a bit of expertise to lean on so they weren't driving their families mad talking about weddings constantly. Others completely unraveled. Not because they were less capable, but because wedding planning was triggering something deeper—family expectations colliding with their own vision, relationship dynamics showing stress points, the performance pressure of becoming "a bride" while trying to stay yourself. The stress wasn't about the logistics. It was about what the logistics represented. Then my father died. And grief sent me sideways in ways I couldn't organise or manage like an event timeline. That's when I found breathwork—not as wellness content, but as the only thing that actually helped me feel human again instead of just a very efficient production machine. Breathwork opened something up. Made me realise I'd been watching nervous system responses for years without naming them. The brides who struggled weren't failing at planning—their bodies were responding to legitimate complexity nobody was acknowledging. So I trained properly. Started facilitating. Moved into festival production because I wanted to understand what happens when you create space for people to be genuinely embodied together, not just performing. And I kept seeing it everywhere. Burning Man camps. Luxury weddings. Transformational festivals. The logistics were always manageable with the right expertise. What made the difference was whether people could stay present, grounded, connected to themselves through the intensity. To Have + To Help brings it all together. Production knowledge from hundreds of events. Somatic practices for when the pressure builds. Pattern recognition from watching people navigate complexity across every kind of ceremony. You get someone who knows vendor negotiation and breathwork facilitation, who's produced high-end events and held space through transformation, who understands that some people need strategic guidance and some need nervous system support, and most need both at different moments.
Read More about Lucie's Story
I started as a confused, stressed-out intern running around luxury events trying to figure out why anyone would willingly choose this chaos. Worked my way up to producing weddings and events across Europe, the kind where every detail matters and the stakes feel impossibly high. And somewhere along the way, I got slightly addicted to the intensity of it all. There's something genuinely intoxicating about event production. The precision. The controlled chaos. Watching disparate elements come together into something beautiful. But I also kept noticing patterns. Some people moved through it with relative ease, they just needed strategic guidance at decision points, someone to sanity-check their choices, a bit of expertise to lean on so they weren't driving their families mad talking about weddings constantly. Others completely unraveled. Not because they were less capable, but because wedding planning was triggering something deeper—family expectations colliding with their own vision, relationship dynamics showing stress points, the performance pressure of becoming "a bride" while trying to stay yourself. The stress wasn't about the logistics. It was about what the logistics represented. Then my father died. And grief sent me sideways in ways I couldn't organise or manage like an event timeline. That's when I found breathwork—not as wellness content, but as the only thing that actually helped me feel human again instead of just a very efficient production machine. Breathwork opened something up. Made me realise I'd been watching nervous system responses for years without naming them. The brides who struggled weren't failing at planning—their bodies were responding to legitimate complexity nobody was acknowledging. So I trained properly. Started facilitating. Moved into festival production because I wanted to understand what happens when you create space for people to be genuinely embodied together, not just performing. And I kept seeing it everywhere. Burning Man camps. Luxury weddings. Transformational festivals. The logistics were always manageable with the right expertise. What made the difference was whether people could stay present, grounded, connected to themselves through the intensity. To Have + To Help brings it all together. Production knowledge from hundreds of events. Somatic practices for when the pressure builds. Pattern recognition from watching people navigate complexity across every kind of ceremony. You get someone who knows vendor negotiation and breathwork facilitation, who's produced high-end events and held space through transformation, who understands that some people need strategic guidance and some need nervous system support, and most need both at different moments.
Read More about Lucie's Story
I started as a confused, stressed-out intern running around luxury events trying to figure out why anyone would willingly choose this chaos. Worked my way up to producing weddings and events across Europe, the kind where every detail matters and the stakes feel impossibly high. And somewhere along the way, I got slightly addicted to the intensity of it all. There's something genuinely intoxicating about event production. The precision. The controlled chaos. Watching disparate elements come together into something beautiful. But I also kept noticing patterns. Some people moved through it with relative ease, they just needed strategic guidance at decision points, someone to sanity-check their choices, a bit of expertise to lean on so they weren't driving their families mad talking about weddings constantly. Others completely unraveled. Not because they were less capable, but because wedding planning was triggering something deeper—family expectations colliding with their own vision, relationship dynamics showing stress points, the performance pressure of becoming "a bride" while trying to stay yourself. The stress wasn't about the logistics. It was about what the logistics represented. Then my father died. And grief sent me sideways in ways I couldn't organise or manage like an event timeline. That's when I found breathwork—not as wellness content, but as the only thing that actually helped me feel human again instead of just a very efficient production machine. Breathwork opened something up. Made me realise I'd been watching nervous system responses for years without naming them. The brides who struggled weren't failing at planning—their bodies were responding to legitimate complexity nobody was acknowledging. So I trained properly. Started facilitating. Moved into festival production because I wanted to understand what happens when you create space for people to be genuinely embodied together, not just performing. And I kept seeing it everywhere. Burning Man camps. Luxury weddings. Transformational festivals. The logistics were always manageable with the right expertise. What made the difference was whether people could stay present, grounded, connected to themselves through the intensity. To Have + To Help brings it all together. Production knowledge from hundreds of events. Somatic practices for when the pressure builds. Pattern recognition from watching people navigate complexity across every kind of ceremony. You get someone who knows vendor negotiation and breathwork facilitation, who's produced high-end events and held space through transformation, who understands that some people need strategic guidance and some need nervous system support, and most need both at different moments.
(TH+TH DNA)
(TH+TH DNA)
Culture
What we stand by:
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We're here to provide expertise, not dictate your choices. You know yourself and your relationship. We know wedding logistics and nervous system patterns. Best outcomes happen when we combine both, your knowing and our context.
(02)
Chemistry matters. If the vibe's off, we both feel it. This only works when you can say the real thing, not the polite thing. We work with people we’d actually want to have a drink with after the ceremony ends.
(03)
This is collaboration built on trust. You bring your questions, your chaos, your actual feelings about the process. I bring pattern recognition, strategic guidance, and tools for when it gets intense. We figure it out together.
(04)
Weddings are absurd, beautiful, overwhelming, and often hilarious simultaneously. We meet the complexity with both strategy and humour, because honesty and perspective get us through better than polish and performance.
